I don’t drink often, but when I do it’s likely some rum or a beer. One of my favorite beers is Sweet Baby Jesus. Largely because of the peanut butter, chocolate combination, but also because of the word association. If you’ve spent any time with me, you’ve likely noticed my more unique way of handling … Continue reading Sweet Baby Jesus
I’ve been in counseling now for a long time. It’s coming up on four years. It’s gone through many different phases: the initial trying to help me understand how bad the situation was, helping me to figure out how to separate, processing through the abuse, helping me make the decision to divorce him, helping me … Continue reading Wrestling with Victimhood
My ex and I were supposed to get together with our Pastor and elder this past Sunday to talk about what it looked like to make amends and be reconciled as brother and sister in the Lord. But on September 2nd I woke up to an email from my ex telling me that he was … Continue reading Imzadi, Farewell!
Do abusers do monstrous things? Yes. But I don’t believe those actions have to define them if they truly change. That is one of the beautiful things about the offer of Jesus to me – the hope that anyone can be redeemed. But on the flip side, I struggle, and get angered by, the more common practice of showering the abuser with “grace”. Delivering justice is sometimes the most gracious thing you can do, both for the victims and for the perpetrators.